Why Employees Leaving

If you feel that your turnover is too high take a good look at the reasons people give for leaving. Does one keep recruiting?Let me give some factors which could be at the root of your problems:
1.Poor recruitment and selection procedures.
2. Management styles.
3. Expectations raised too high at interview so that disillusionment sets in.
4. Poor company communications. Employees are unaware if what they are trying to achieve and why.
5. Lack of managerial support.
6. Low wages.
7. Poor working conditions.
8. Lack of training, prospects or new challenges.
It is very hard to determine the level of turnover to over him for. No turnover at all is unrealistic and could mean your company stagnates. Many seasonal business like hotels have to accept a 100/ turnover of employees each year, but aim for a high level of stability during the season.

the real pain of life: betrayal

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Love or lover who won’t come back

If you are in love then you are in the heaven and if not then you are like “nearer the church farther from the heaven” but if you were in love and now you have been far from it then its worst time of your life. Many situations comes in our life some seems very difficult and some very easy. We can’t forget the dear and the near one when they cheat or betrayed us. it’s true but sometime we have to bear it. There will be many compulsions in your life which we have to adopt. “It’s hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does”.

We learned a lesson after he or she left us. Our life is very busy sometime with the work or sometime with the nonsense or senseless activities. Many things put us towards the negativeness but however we have to maintain our social status.

Love comes after the humanity. Man dies for love as well as woman. She may not express it soon but he should also think about her. If he has left she would not cry much she would bear it .she may drink this poisons.

Love never dies it remains forever. Love can’t be measured and can’t be eaten. Many lines you may hear about love.

 A girl who has been in love for seven years now crying for her lover back in her life this is true that what we want may not get but what we don’t, will get surely.

In my short career, I have got several bad or good situations. In month of love I am expressing my grief and happiness to all of them who were mine and are mine and will be mine. I don’t know who will walk with me hand in hand but I am sure I will get the best and I will love her like no one had done so far. Married Life is not to get marry or get child, this is more beyond it. What we keep waiting for in married life should be enjoyed. Let me come back on the same topic in my short life there were many girls proposed me for directly or indirectly for long life sort term or obliviously one night too. This may be bitter truth but should not remain in mind or heart only. But I escaped and rescued from these situations. I became mature very soon and knew the worlds and human problems soon. In the age of college I didn’t enjoy as children enjoy in their college. Such as flirting, cheating, dating or gossiping but I could see them easily how they were enjoying which was not permanent or may be artificial. I was searching my happiness in the thousands of questions which were arising in my mind again and again that what are the ways to become self depend.

 Girls who were very close to me left no chance to show or flirt me but I could guess what they were searching in me. I didn’t or never force them for anything but they did it. Today when they come to me with their kids express it “you were very smart”.

We know it well, we shouldn’t cheat the upcoming life partner but in today’s time it has become very common.

Love and lover both are a serious or great word which comes in one’s life easily.

After she left me I couldn’t stop my tear but I couldn’t show them because it was a heart breaking experience. How she would be living, all the activities and habits of her which were coming in front of me repeatedly. I couldn’t eat, drink and sleep well. But I managed it because my duties, responsibilities and career path were different. I was to run a race and it was a stone came on the road which not only hurt me but made me injured also. I didn’t stop myself, I kept moving and now I can advice you this happens in everyone’s life but it doesn’t make any difference to your career.

Love creates angriness, happiness, busyness, disturbance, lust and boring things writer writes his experience about his bad experience anyone who has experienced betrayal in a relationship knows how difficult it is to recover from such an experience. The person you thought you could trust and count on is no longer the person you believed them to be. So you wonder what happened. Were you just wrong about them all along or did something change? Maybe your relationship changed and so did their loyalty to you. Maybe something in either or both of your lives has changed and they became insensitive to you. Or, maybe you both grew apart and in different directions.

There are many reasons that cause people to betray one another. Sometimes they are very deliberate and intended to hurt the other person. And sometimes they are consequences of choices that are made with no intention of doing any harm to anyone. Looking out for one’s own best interests can cause some people to disregard relationships they once valued. They may feel the relationship is in the way or not as important anymore. Feelings change. And as feelings change so do one’s actions and choices. An individual that feels their needs are not being met in a relationship might feel that the relationship is no longer important or worth investing in. Therefore, they might seek to get their needs met elsewhere. This changes the relationship. Eventually, it grows apart and opportunities for betrayal emerge. one of the writer wrote in his bio

“To me, the thing that is worse than death is betrayal. You see, I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal.”I have forgotten her completely and it just took 6 years. You may be surprised the 6 years are not just years, its long time which may be very important time of life.

Psychologists Dr Susan Krauss Whitbourne, there are the key points from the betrayal research I’ve covered here, with one message for the perpetrator and two for the victim.

Perpetrator: Say you’re sorry and then be sorry.

As we saw from the Hannon study, perpetrator apologies set the ball rolling toward victim forgiveness. However, the apology (whether you put it in words or not) must be authentic. Show that you’ve learned from the situation and don’t just vow not to do it again—don’t.

Victim: Avoid self-blame.

Interpreting serious betrayal, including abuse, as your fault can damage your mental health. Learn to adjust your appraisals until you truly believe that you are not to blame.

Victim: Practice forgiveness.

Being able to forgive the person who betrayed you will help heal not only the relationship, but also your own mental scars. In the process, you’ll also learn about the relationship—and about yourself.  Your relationship values and expectations say a lot about who you are as a person. As you clarify those, you’ll gain better self-understanding.

Betrayals are perhaps the most painful aspect of long-term relationships and the most difficult to overcome. However, by viewing the path to resolution as a two-way street, both you and your relationships will benefit.

Written by

Santosh Kumar Chaudhary 

I am Very Free but you are so Busy. How busy we are?

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Today I m free for you, I can spare time for you anytime because I know how to manage time. I am never busy. I am free on Diwali, Holi, Eid, Christmas.  I am free in wedding, I am free in summer, winter or in rainy season. Throughout 24/7 and 365 days for you.

“I am so busy dear son, “I have an urgent meeting I can’t solve your math’s question”. A father said to his loving son who is in sixth standard in high school. 

“"Darling, we can’t meet this Sunday, my boss is coming so I have to be with him, but this is Sunday, she replied. But you know my job is so, he left the home.”

“Sorry I have no time to walk with you; today we’re going for a picnic with my staff a boy said to his mom”.

There are many people speak these lines “I m so busy, I m very busy, I don’t have even time to eat food, I have no much time, I have no time breathe even”

How funny or disturbing these words are if you think deeply about these things. The real busy person will never use these words.  Because he or she is deeply busy in the action which is to be completed very soon. A person who has no time to say I am busy is really busy because he has no time to respond you that’s the reality.

We all human the same amount of time.  All gets 1440 minutes a day.  Don’t say “I don’t have time, I am busy, I have no time” or “I’m too busy”.  In that respect we are all equal; we all have the same allocation of daily minutes. Then why we are Pretending to be busy thing about you as well as others too. On this earth all human eat to live. I started wondering how much people actually say that phrase to each other.  We may become surprise and may be thinking the same too. Just think a minute the following question and find out the answer of them to make you satisfied

1. Who isn’t busy?

2. When did you say last? “Nothing is going on, nothing just enjoying”.

3. Is it something we say to make people think we are important?

4. What is he or she thinking after you have said “I am busy, I have no time”

There are many people who are explaining this social addiction of this phrase. I googled an article on The Wall Street Journal which is an American English-language international daily newspaper with a special emphasis on business and economic news explains  “Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”

It means its clear we have time but we don’t want to spend with you. It may be also that he or she is finding the way to ignore or avoid you. It must be clear here that people often who use this word don’t want to waste single minute with you.

A 49 years young best selling American novelist, writer and host writes about people’s busyness in his column -

“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a faking phone call.”

Most people use these words to avoid each other and this has become very easy. We have lots of time if we think but if we are not interested in the things or people then this may be the best way to avoid. Someone I have also realized this several time. I have been a trainer most of the learners pretend to not to prepare for presentation and they mostly say “we are not ready for debate, we need time to be ready”

One my closest students mailed me a story about how busy we are.many students and learners of mine keep expressing their views on the different topic.  

“An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,

 "I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much

 Misery is enough!"

 "Dad, what are you talking about?" the son screams.

 "We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man says.

 "We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!"

 Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.

 She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, "You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling

 my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??" and she hangs up. The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. "Okay", he says, "It's all set. They're both coming for Diwali and paying their own airfare!!"

We can find some moral of this story that nobody is busy in this planet. All have some seconds, minutes, days and months too. But they are not willing to mange it anymore they are unsuccessful to manage it.

 The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.

never say i m busy always say. i don't want it now i will do it later. give reasons and time to make others happy or convinced.

Santosh Kumar Chaudhary

 Soft Skills Trainer and Writer 

What are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

What are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

Today we have been mugging up a lot Things day by day but not focusing on the other side of job oriented skills. We can score well but language and skills pay you more in today’s time. Recruiters are paying more attention on skills, knowledge, communications and leadership. Without the soft skills many a student are jobless.  What are the soft skills? How to develop soft skills? What is included in soft skills?

 Many questions may arise when we are finding the answer of the above questions. Soft skills mean your emotional intelligence quotient. It can be called people skill. Its up to you how do you want to develop them.

Gone are the days when   people used to be judged by their marks and mark sheets? This time will not let you step ahead if you have not got good language and communication. So before going for job or interview or in any meeting improve your soft skills.

 Soften your skills needs planning and understating them properly. Soft skills  includes several things such as  Management, communication, language, decisiveness etc. if you are working somewhere or willing to work your seniors or authorities will seek for  Reliability, Flexibility, Team skills,  Cooperation, Work experience,  Ability to measure, Personal integrity and  Good work history from you. Everywhere we need to improve our own personality so that we can achieve what we want.

 An individual needs a Positive work ethic with Great Interpersonal skills to motivate one. You can develop your soft skills staying with critical or difficult people, understanding your negative ideas, taking feedback from different people finding the weakness and trying to solve may improve something. You can join a group of people or any institute which provide specific training.  and you can read about developing skills following skills are important in one’s life very much

• Negotiation – negotiating someone may be tough skills for you but this is very important skills in one’s personality. if he or she can do it better. The art of negotiating a deal with a client or even negotiating with a co-worker is something that you need to master effectively. There is no course or training for it but you can master in it by doing some great discussions or involving with good people. Listening different managers, ceo’s or director’s speech or conflict solution may give something.

• Team building – this is hardest task ever in your life. It needs lots of effort to avoid rubbish. If you are working somewhere then you start realizing something around you such as politics in office, revenge, insult, more work, work load or discrimination, rivalry which directly affect your ego that divides the staff or team. But you must understand you are not there to this rubbish act. You should try to understand the priority of work and your profile and adjustment with others so that you can be a part of healthy atmosphere.

• Communication – communicating someone effectively may put you at the high positions. Your communications are the part of organization and your life too. Expressing your thoughts and opinion may be part of someone’s growth to. Understand the act of someone and giving someone’s a solution will boost him as well as you. If you are planning to improve your skills then go for it. This is not only for one day your whole life actions and pans depend on. Improving communication and language will give you self satisfaction and confidence.

 Overall I will say there are many things in your life which needs to be developed and these things can’t develop in day. It needs time and alertness as well as right guidance. If you can improve soft skills then you can get anything in your life.

Written by

SANTOSH CHAUDHARY

DIRECTOR [HR, TRAINING]

AMERICAN INSTITUTE, KOTA

teaching skills

Teaching skills:  teachers with latest technology

After conducting several teacher training programs for teachers in different schools I personally realized that there are so many teachers who are beyond the real teaching skills with modern technology. We know that Teachers are supposed to have proper teaching skills to understand teaching professions properly. It’s not being only a job, it should be a passion. What are the teaching skills? What is the role of technology in education?

Let me explain it in short. The quality of teaching is not simply determined by an individual’s knowledge or ability, but also by the contexts in which teachers work. Improving teacher quality thus entails policies concerning recruitment, early preparation, retention (including attention to working conditions), as well as professional development.

If you want to be a good teacher then there is need to acquire required qualities to become a role model in children’s   life. A good teacher will. . .

• Understand the learner’s needs Set appropriate learning objectives
• Prepare well so that the context and content is clear and focused
•  Match the educational methods with those objectives
• Stimulate the learner and challenge the learner
• Interest the learner and involve the learner
•  Encourage the learner – with positive feedback
• Use a style of delivery that suits the learner’s needs
• Evaluate the teaching and the learning
• Refine future teaching in light of evaluation
• Be a life-long learner.

 Many teachers still believe and want to move in the same way which they were taught decades ago. Many of them still don’t know how to use website, social networking, Audio and videos while teaching

There are several methods of teaching in the world such as A. Brainstorming B. Problem Solving Method C. Cooperative Learning Technique D. Case Method E. and Drama Technique.

But we can not use these methods properly without using technology. The need of technology in education is well known in todya’s time but who will train our teachers for these teaching aids. Many students are learning with technology on the other hand teachers are still teaching by text books. İts well known saying that “a picture paints thousand words”. Children learn faster while using the technolgy . a survy conducted by many psychologist  tells that “we retain 10/ in mind from what we read ,20/ from what our teachers teache means by hearing ,30/from what we see and 50/ from what we hear and see means visua aids”.

there are severa visual aids such as OHP over head projector to show your slides, LCD to show diagrams ,videos and audios to make them listen or for live classes ,Fipchart, datachart online e-library ,peer learning wiht latest teaching tools , laptops etc.

For using all these things first teachers must be aware of using it correct way STOP, START AND CONTINUE formula. Where to pause the video and what do you want to show through it.

There are several websites and teachers associations which provides support and free teaching for teachers the best wesite for teachers may http://www.readanybook.com, readbookonline.net, publicbookshelf.com, www.readcentral.com, www.pagebypagebooks.com, www.bookchums.com and you may use these websites too Crayola Educators, Delicious, Intel Assessing Projects, PBS Teachers.

Teachers are supposed to know latest technology, websites, teaching tools, teaching books, top teachers, and researchers and connect yourself with media for latest facts figures, examples and all kind of knowledge.

Happy teaching

By

Santosh Chaudhary

Director 

AMERICAN Institute Kota

ELT [International]