I am Very Free but you are so Busy. How busy we are?

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Today I m free for you, I can spare time for you anytime because I know how to manage time. I am never busy. I am free on Diwali, Holi, Eid, Christmas.  I am free in wedding, I am free in summer, winter or in rainy season. Throughout 24/7 and 365 days for you.

“I am so busy dear son, “I have an urgent meeting I can’t solve your math’s question”. A father said to his loving son who is in sixth standard in high school. 

“"Darling, we can’t meet this Sunday, my boss is coming so I have to be with him, but this is Sunday, she replied. But you know my job is so, he left the home.”

“Sorry I have no time to walk with you; today we’re going for a picnic with my staff a boy said to his mom”.

There are many people speak these lines “I m so busy, I m very busy, I don’t have even time to eat food, I have no much time, I have no time breathe even”

How funny or disturbing these words are if you think deeply about these things. The real busy person will never use these words.  Because he or she is deeply busy in the action which is to be completed very soon. A person who has no time to say I am busy is really busy because he has no time to respond you that’s the reality.

We all human the same amount of time.  All gets 1440 minutes a day.  Don’t say “I don’t have time, I am busy, I have no time” or “I’m too busy”.  In that respect we are all equal; we all have the same allocation of daily minutes. Then why we are Pretending to be busy thing about you as well as others too. On this earth all human eat to live. I started wondering how much people actually say that phrase to each other.  We may become surprise and may be thinking the same too. Just think a minute the following question and find out the answer of them to make you satisfied

1. Who isn’t busy?

2. When did you say last? “Nothing is going on, nothing just enjoying”.

3. Is it something we say to make people think we are important?

4. What is he or she thinking after you have said “I am busy, I have no time”

There are many people who are explaining this social addiction of this phrase. I googled an article on The Wall Street Journal which is an American English-language international daily newspaper with a special emphasis on business and economic news explains  “Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”

It means its clear we have time but we don’t want to spend with you. It may be also that he or she is finding the way to ignore or avoid you. It must be clear here that people often who use this word don’t want to waste single minute with you.

A 49 years young best selling American novelist, writer and host writes about people’s busyness in his column -

“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a faking phone call.”

Most people use these words to avoid each other and this has become very easy. We have lots of time if we think but if we are not interested in the things or people then this may be the best way to avoid. Someone I have also realized this several time. I have been a trainer most of the learners pretend to not to prepare for presentation and they mostly say “we are not ready for debate, we need time to be ready”

One my closest students mailed me a story about how busy we are.many students and learners of mine keep expressing their views on the different topic.  

“An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,

 "I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much

 Misery is enough!"

 "Dad, what are you talking about?" the son screams.

 "We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man says.

 "We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!"

 Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.

 She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, "You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling

 my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??" and she hangs up. The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. "Okay", he says, "It's all set. They're both coming for Diwali and paying their own airfare!!"

We can find some moral of this story that nobody is busy in this planet. All have some seconds, minutes, days and months too. But they are not willing to mange it anymore they are unsuccessful to manage it.

 The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.

never say i m busy always say. i don't want it now i will do it later. give reasons and time to make others happy or convinced.

Santosh Kumar Chaudhary

 Soft Skills Trainer and Writer 

What are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

What are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

Today we have been mugging up a lot Things day by day but not focusing on the other side of job oriented skills. We can score well but language and skills pay you more in today’s time. Recruiters are paying more attention on skills, knowledge, communications and leadership. Without the soft skills many a student are jobless.  What are the soft skills? How to develop soft skills? What is included in soft skills?

 Many questions may arise when we are finding the answer of the above questions. Soft skills mean your emotional intelligence quotient. It can be called people skill. Its up to you how do you want to develop them.

Gone are the days when   people used to be judged by their marks and mark sheets? This time will not let you step ahead if you have not got good language and communication. So before going for job or interview or in any meeting improve your soft skills.

 Soften your skills needs planning and understating them properly. Soft skills  includes several things such as  Management, communication, language, decisiveness etc. if you are working somewhere or willing to work your seniors or authorities will seek for  Reliability, Flexibility, Team skills,  Cooperation, Work experience,  Ability to measure, Personal integrity and  Good work history from you. Everywhere we need to improve our own personality so that we can achieve what we want.

 An individual needs a Positive work ethic with Great Interpersonal skills to motivate one. You can develop your soft skills staying with critical or difficult people, understanding your negative ideas, taking feedback from different people finding the weakness and trying to solve may improve something. You can join a group of people or any institute which provide specific training.  and you can read about developing skills following skills are important in one’s life very much

• Negotiation – negotiating someone may be tough skills for you but this is very important skills in one’s personality. if he or she can do it better. The art of negotiating a deal with a client or even negotiating with a co-worker is something that you need to master effectively. There is no course or training for it but you can master in it by doing some great discussions or involving with good people. Listening different managers, ceo’s or director’s speech or conflict solution may give something.

• Team building – this is hardest task ever in your life. It needs lots of effort to avoid rubbish. If you are working somewhere then you start realizing something around you such as politics in office, revenge, insult, more work, work load or discrimination, rivalry which directly affect your ego that divides the staff or team. But you must understand you are not there to this rubbish act. You should try to understand the priority of work and your profile and adjustment with others so that you can be a part of healthy atmosphere.

• Communication – communicating someone effectively may put you at the high positions. Your communications are the part of organization and your life too. Expressing your thoughts and opinion may be part of someone’s growth to. Understand the act of someone and giving someone’s a solution will boost him as well as you. If you are planning to improve your skills then go for it. This is not only for one day your whole life actions and pans depend on. Improving communication and language will give you self satisfaction and confidence.

 Overall I will say there are many things in your life which needs to be developed and these things can’t develop in day. It needs time and alertness as well as right guidance. If you can improve soft skills then you can get anything in your life.

Written by

SANTOSH CHAUDHARY

DIRECTOR [HR, TRAINING]

AMERICAN INSTITUTE, KOTA

teaching skills

Teaching skills:  teachers with latest technology

After conducting several teacher training programs for teachers in different schools I personally realized that there are so many teachers who are beyond the real teaching skills with modern technology. We know that Teachers are supposed to have proper teaching skills to understand teaching professions properly. It’s not being only a job, it should be a passion. What are the teaching skills? What is the role of technology in education?

Let me explain it in short. The quality of teaching is not simply determined by an individual’s knowledge or ability, but also by the contexts in which teachers work. Improving teacher quality thus entails policies concerning recruitment, early preparation, retention (including attention to working conditions), as well as professional development.

If you want to be a good teacher then there is need to acquire required qualities to become a role model in children’s   life. A good teacher will. . .

• Understand the learner’s needs Set appropriate learning objectives
• Prepare well so that the context and content is clear and focused
•  Match the educational methods with those objectives
• Stimulate the learner and challenge the learner
• Interest the learner and involve the learner
•  Encourage the learner – with positive feedback
• Use a style of delivery that suits the learner’s needs
• Evaluate the teaching and the learning
• Refine future teaching in light of evaluation
• Be a life-long learner.

 Many teachers still believe and want to move in the same way which they were taught decades ago. Many of them still don’t know how to use website, social networking, Audio and videos while teaching

There are several methods of teaching in the world such as A. Brainstorming B. Problem Solving Method C. Cooperative Learning Technique D. Case Method E. and Drama Technique.

But we can not use these methods properly without using technology. The need of technology in education is well known in todya’s time but who will train our teachers for these teaching aids. Many students are learning with technology on the other hand teachers are still teaching by text books. İts well known saying that “a picture paints thousand words”. Children learn faster while using the technolgy . a survy conducted by many psychologist  tells that “we retain 10/ in mind from what we read ,20/ from what our teachers teache means by hearing ,30/from what we see and 50/ from what we hear and see means visua aids”.

there are severa visual aids such as OHP over head projector to show your slides, LCD to show diagrams ,videos and audios to make them listen or for live classes ,Fipchart, datachart online e-library ,peer learning wiht latest teaching tools , laptops etc.

For using all these things first teachers must be aware of using it correct way STOP, START AND CONTINUE formula. Where to pause the video and what do you want to show through it.

There are several websites and teachers associations which provides support and free teaching for teachers the best wesite for teachers may http://www.readanybook.com, readbookonline.net, publicbookshelf.com, www.readcentral.com, www.pagebypagebooks.com, www.bookchums.com and you may use these websites too Crayola Educators, Delicious, Intel Assessing Projects, PBS Teachers.

Teachers are supposed to know latest technology, websites, teaching tools, teaching books, top teachers, and researchers and connect yourself with media for latest facts figures, examples and all kind of knowledge.

Happy teaching

By

Santosh Chaudhary

Director 

AMERICAN Institute Kota

ELT [International] 

Pampered children don't love their parents

" You count your money i will count my money " one of the boys said to a girl when they came out from a bank. I couldn't stop my tears these were the children of some farmers who were studying in a college. This was the money which was send by their parents.
When we see the reality of agriculture in India then either you will curse your government or yourself. India is known for agriculture but farmers are getting suicide in west rajasthan n maha,karnatak ,bihar n orrisha too
Being a son of farmer i feel proud of myself to closed to nature.
Living with parents i got their blessing, love n care but when i meet some if the people in some cities i find what dirt things r going on are we going on the right track or somewhere.
A girl recently told i don't think parents are god ....it was their duty to give me birth so will i . I was shocked listening these words from a modern girl whose boyfriend was spoilbrat.
In life we will find these types of example in a lot  but lets see what happens with these types of people .they may kill their parents for their desires n passion.

Santosh Chaudhary

Career in different areas, but choose a good college first

When we talk about education then  we remember our school board, chalks, wooden chairs and some teachers this is the actual condition of Indian education. We have a crowd in our country and we have few schools and colleges. Our problems are lot solutions are less so naturally the qualified people will be found less. Students will buy books and notebooks they will mug up the lessons and put it in the examination and finally who are the best , one who can cram the lessons and chapters fast. Our ministers may be talking about iit, iiit and niit but no one wants to discuss about primary education which is the base of Indian education.
The worst teacher and their methods can be found in these schools. What is the need and who needs quality education..i think no one . The person who is searching for quality education he has no one to pay the giant but attractive universitys in education and the cut off will stop him going there therefore he has to sacrifice.
This is the Month of June ,almost all results are declared. Some students are crying and some are rejoicing on the other hand some lovely children left this dirty and competitive world .they were not satisfied from there results so they planned to get suicide.  When i will check the cut off i m sure some more will start crying. Some children have already planned to leave country just because of education they can leave family. Family is the mist important world of a man which i will write about in next post
So the question is quality education. The topper of ISC indian school certificate board exams RohanSampath spoke in an interview about family " my parents attitude was helpful. They never put pressure on me for studying. My brothers is very nice he gave me company in my mental practice"
When it comes to surroundings in education we find less  things around us to develop mind which more important then the educational books. I personally feel its important to be in connection of good people for all fields knowledge and experience. I daily read four newspapers and in a week six magazines, i love watching all top mist channels Masala, i never miss the chance of reading about different topics. This is not enough for me interacting with new people is passion. I love being praised and stay calm in emotional decisions with my students. The lesson teacher should learn is leading, learning, ready, watching, researching n i m sure they can become a role model