Saturday, December 15, 2012

I am Very Free but you are so Busy. How busy we are?

Today I m free for you, I can spare time for you anytime because I know how to manage time. I am never busy. I am free on Diwali, Holi, Eid, Christmas.  I am free in wedding, I am free in summer, winter or in rainy season. Throughout 24/7 and 365 days for you.

“I am so busy dear son, “I have an urgent meeting I can’t solve your math’s question”. A father said to his loving son who is in sixth standard in high school. 
“"Darling, we can’t meet this Sunday, my boss is coming so I have to be with him, but this is Sunday, she replied. But you know my job is so, he left the home.”
“Sorry I have no time to walk with you; today we’re going for a picnic with my staff a boy said to his mom”.

There are many people speak these lines “I m so busy, I m very busy, I don’t have even time to eat food, I have no much time, I have no time breathe even”

How funny or disturbing these words are if you think deeply about these things. The real busy person will never use these words.  Because he or she is deeply busy in the action which is to be completed very soon. A person who has no time to say I am busy is really busy because he has no time to respond you that’s the reality.
We all human the same amount of time.  All gets 1440 minutes a day.  Don’t say “I don’t have time, I am busy, I have no time” or “I’m too busy”.  In that respect we are all equal; we all have the same allocation of daily minutes. Then why we are Pretending to be busy thing about you as well as others too. On this earth all human eat to live. I started wondering how much people actually say that phrase to each other.  We may become surprise and may be thinking the same too. Just think a minute the following question and find out the answer of them to make you satisfied
1. Who isn’t busy?
2. When did you say last? “Nothing is going on, nothing just enjoying”.
3. Is it something we say to make people think we are important?
4. What is he or she thinking after you have said “I am busy, I have no time”
There are many people who are explaining this social addiction of this phrase. I googled an article on The Wall Street Journal which is an American English-language international daily newspaper with a special emphasis on business and economic news explains  “Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”
It means its clear we have time but we don’t want to spend with you. It may be also that he or she is finding the way to ignore or avoid you. It must be clear here that people often who use this word don’t want to waste single minute with you.

A 49 years young best selling American novelist, writer and host writes about people’s busyness in his column -
“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a faking phone call.”

Most people use these words to avoid each other and this has become very easy. We have lots of time if we think but if we are not interested in the things or people then this may be the best way to avoid. Someone I have also realized this several time. I have been a trainer most of the learners pretend to not to prepare for presentation and they mostly say “we are not ready for debate, we need time to be ready”
One my closest students mailed me a story about how busy we are.many students and learners of mine keep expressing their views on the different topic.  

“An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,

 "I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much

 Misery is enough!"

 "Dad, what are you talking about?" the son screams.

 "We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man says.

 "We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!"

 Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.

 She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, "You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling
 my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??" and she hangs up. The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. "Okay", he says, "It's all set. They're both coming for Diwali and paying their own airfare!!"

We can find some moral of this story that nobody is busy in this planet. All have some seconds, minutes, days and months too. But they are not willing to mange it anymore they are unsuccessful to manage it.

 The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.

never say i m busy always say. i don't want it now i will do it later. give reasons and time to make others happy or convinced.

Santosh Kumar Chaudhary
 Soft Skills Trainer and Writer