Sunday, September 21, 2014

Control your Anger

Anger is a natural response that we all experience. Some of us feel this emotion more frequently than others. Similarly, some of us control our emotions better than others.
Anger leaves a bad taste in your mouth in the sense that it transmits a lingering feeling of negativity. The angrier you get the deeper the emotional reaction and the longer the bad taste lingers. 
Whilst it can be quite healthy to quickly vent one's angry feelings, this should be distinguished from a prolonged rant. The former gets the emotion out and leaves it there. You can then return to a comfortable state of equanimity and turn your focus to better things. The latter, however, has quite a different long-term effect. The ranting serves to anchor the negativity and embed it more deeply thereby ensuring that it is more difficult to shift and move away from.
When you are angry your emotional state is in turmoil. When you wish to control anger you have a choice as to how you go about achieving this aim.
You could approach the subject of overcoming anger from the perspective of changing your thoughts. Thoughts create emotions and these determine your actions. By choosing to change your thoughts to something that is more peaceful you will inevitably begin to feel calmer and more relaxed. The anger will shift along with the focus of your thoughts.
An alternative approach to overcoming anger is to focus upon your emotional state. Although I just said that thought creates emotions that in turn predict behavior, your mind and body interact in a two-way process. Just as mind works upon body the reverse is also the case.
When you are angry everything in your body feels tense. Everything is tight. Your breathing is shallower and more rapid and your heart beats at a swifter rate. Adrenalin flows and you are poised to fight. This is the state that anger creates.
You could beat a cushion and get the tension out that way. You could run it off. Or you could focus upon your state and intentionally shake your muscles loose, deepen your breathing and calm your heart rate.
Hypnosis provides a way in which you can control anger from both angles. Hypnosis is in itself a state of relaxation and so merely by using hypnosis you change both your focus and your state. With hypnosis you can create a state of relaxed awareness at a moments notice and step back from situations so as to see them from a different angle.
There is an added benefit to using hypnosis in that it provides access to your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is the part where automatic patterns of thought and reaction are stored. If your anger thermostat has gotten used to being turned up higher than you wish you could make suggestions to lower this threshold and hence not rise to the bait so swiftly or frequently. This intervention can be achieved easily and quickly simply by listening to a hypnosis mp3 download.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

women in india

Women in India:
•       Sex Ratio                  933:1000
•       Literacy Male           75.85
•       Literacy Female       54.16
•       1 to 3% of executive positions only occupied by women
•       9 % of women in execute bodies of political parties
•       3 % of women as Supreme Court Judges
•       7 % of women in civil services
•       6 % women in trade unions
•       Infant mortality is 67 for boys and 78 for girls
•       40 % women are assaulted by their intimate partners
•       65 % women reported some kind of abuse
•       Rural women are paid 60% of what men are paid
•       Urban women are paid 80% of what men are paid
•       A woman is molested in the country every 26 minutes
•       A rape occurs every 34 minutes
•       Every 42 minutes, an incident of sexual harassment takes place
•       Every 43 minutes, a woman is kidnapped
•       Every 93 minutes, a woman is killed
•       Every 102 minutes, a dowry death
•       Physical abuse of Indian women is high ranging from 22-60 percent
•       71.5 percent increase in cases of torture and dowry deaths from 1991-1995
•       45 percent of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands
•       India also had highest rate of violence during pregnancy - 50 percent were kicked, beaten or hit when pregnant
•       74.8 percent of women who reported violence have attempted to commit suicide
•       Highest rate of sexual violence were among highly educated men
•       32% - with zero education, 42% - primary school education, 57%-high school and college education
•       35% sexual violence by low economic groups and 61 % among the highest income groups
•       Between 1980 and 1990 there was an increase of nearly 74% in crimes against women
•       Between 1993 and 2000 there was an increase of nearly 150% in crimes against women
•       Only 22% of women in rural India were recorded as workers
•       Only 32% of the female labour force of the total labour force is accounted for
•       In rural India, agriculture and allied industrial sectors employ as much as 89.5% of the total female labour
•       A rough estimate of sex-specific abortions and female infanticide together has been obtained by using indirect demographic techniques on census data, indicating that there have been about 1.2 million `missing girls' in India during the decade 1981-1991

1.     Excerpts from study on impact of globalization on women – study by mapovi
2.     Human development report of Tamilnadu –2003
3.     Indian census – 2001

4.     Crime Against women – DIG report 2004

Employees and Company: The Company Culture

What does ‘company culture’ mean?
Company culture relates to the behaviors of a set of individuals within the same work environment; how they act, the values they describe to these actions, their personal goals and how these fit in with the goals of the organization, where they work, and how individuals interact with others in this environment.
It relates to the understanding of a company’s mission, visions and goals by the whole of the workforce; ideally, every person in the organization will know what the company wants to achieve and work towards this in every instance. It is not enough for an individual to do their tasks because they know it is what is required of them; they should do it because they know it will benefit the company, which they feel a part of
What's the best way to keep your workers happy? This question arises everywhere but what is the answer? Competitive salaries and benefits can certainly contribute to employee satisfaction, but a strong, supportive company culture can be just as important to retaining your top employees.
"Culture unleashes the power and energy of every individual in the organization," said Manish Goel, CEO of business analytics solutions provider Guavus. "No matter how much work is put into developing strategies, all have to work in an environment where they feel they can succeed and are supported. A great culture isn't something that's stagnant and can always exist as-is. It is liquid and has to be fostered. I firmly believe that organizations get the best out of people by having a one-team mindset and an attitude of trust."
Why is a good company culture important?
A strong culture helps an organisation to work like a well-oiled machine, where every employee responds to events because of what they know about the company’s values. Little control needs to be exercised over employees in companies with a good work culture because they all know what needs to be done, why and how, and work automatically to achieve it.
Weak cultures, on the other hand, do not have the same kind of alignment to company values, so more effort needs to be placed in controlling employees to keep them on track.
Clearly there is an advantage to a good company culture: less monitoring is required by the higher-ups, and the work that is done is of a higher value to the company.
A company with a clear culture will be able to easily induct new employees into the company’s set of beliefs and encourage ways of working that cohere to the company’s goals and visions as a whole. Employees within a company with a good culture are also more engaged, motivated to succeed and display more organisational loyalty, which can take the form of being less likely to leave the company and being more likely to become an advocate of the organisation.
An increase in team cohesiveness is also a by-product of a good company culture. Individuals know where they stand within a team, trust everyone else to do a good job, feel valued and feel like their contribution is important. This all combines to create a good team working environment, where all members are able to contribute for the good of the whole, like – as mentioned earlier – a well-oiled machine.
So clearly a good company culture is something to aspire to. Not only does it breed a good working environment, but it is beneficial for individuals, teams, departments and organisations as a whole. What’s not to like?
5 quick tips to improve your company culture!
1.   First, identify where you’re going wrong. Think about how your organisation would work if your company culture was perfect (you can use the above section as a basis for comparison).
2.   Work on communication: create communication channels throughout your company so that key messages are heard by everyone and understood. Get everyone on the same page! 
3.   It is clear that being engaged at work and having a good company culture are linked. Increasing engagement can help to bring about a culture change.
4.   Encourage employees to take pride in their work by rewarding them for great effort. 
5.   Finally, invest in learning, training and increasing employee knowledge. If employees feel that they are valued enough to receive training, they’re more likely to be happy at work and be willing to work towards the values of the company. Hey presto, a good company culture!


What are the different types of degree-granting institutions (universities/colleges) in India?
What is the enrollment of Indian students by level of education?
What are the top fields of study for Indian Students?
These are some of the frequently asked questions about data and statistics related to the size and scale of Indian higher education system. Given below is the latest information available from University Grants Commission of India.

With 700 universities and more than 35,000 affiliated colleges enrolling more than 20 million students, Indian higher education is a large and complex system. The structure of degree-granting institutions is cumbersome primarily due to "affiliation" and funding sources. More than 85% of students are enrolled in bachelor's degree programs with majority enrolling in three-year B.A., B.Com. Or B.Sc. Degrees. One-sixth of all Indian students are enrolled in Engineering/Technology degrees.

Higher Education Institutions (Universities and Colleges) in India
Type of Institution
Central Universities (Public)
University of Delhi
State Universities (Public)
University of Mumbai
State Universities (Private)
Amity University
Deemed Universities (Private or Public)
Tata Institute of Social Sciences
Institution of National Importance (Public)
Indian Institute of Technology
Total Degree-granting Institutions
Affiliated Colleges (Public or Private)

 Enrollment of Indian Students by Level of Education
Number ('000)
% of Total
Graduate (Bachelor's)
Post-Graduate (Master's)
Research (Doctoral)

Enrollment of Indian Students by fields of study
Number ('000)
% of Total
Commerce & Management
Engineering & Technology
Veterinary Science

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

How to Save Your Marriage

All wants their married life happy and successful. Why dispute arises. How to make your married life enjoyable.
There are guidelines to follow if you want to save your marriage. Marriage is more than just a game in life but nevertheless married couples enter the playing field with no practical experience or any idea of the rules.
Some couples master the rules faster than others. Some come to a decision they don't like the game at all and call it a day. Others carry on playing the game even though they don't like it and are not having any fun at all. They keep on rolling the dice hoping that their luck will change and the game will get better. Let's have a look at 5 rules that can save your marriage.
1. Being Tolerant.
It's easy to see the best in a person as long as they are doing what you like. But it is important to make the effort to not let little things irritate you. If your partner does something that does annoy you, don't look at them as faults but as unique character qualities. Love the faults along with the benefits. This may seem you adjustment but will develop trust and patience.
2. Be a Space Giver.
This means not only having separate wardrobes but allow each other much needed private time. Being with someone you love all the time is challenging. This applies to not only at home but with friends as well. Incidentally, with regards to the space in the wardrobes, keep yours tidy.
3. Go Away Together.
It's tricky to find time to take a holiday in a busy marriage but you must do it. A change of surroundings can really save your marriage by reigniting the spark that may be fading. And memories can be the glue that keeps you stuck together while the other pressures of life try to pull you apart.
4. Compare Opinions. Don't Argue.
Arguments will arise in any relationship but if you want to save your marriage be respectful of your partner's opinion. If the argument gets heated and its late in the day, it may be best to go to bed and sleep on it. An old saying recommends that you to never go to bed angry but things generally look better in the morning. Never give an ultimatum unless you want it to be taken. Give consideration to your partner's likes and dislikes and you'll have fewer arguments.
5. Don't Forget The Romance.
You don't have to be newlyweds to experience romance and intimacy. One of the ways to improve a relationship is to remember what you did when you starting dating and do it again. You probably exchanged gifts, took walks and went out for romantic dinner dates. You may think you know everything about your partner and if that's soFeature Articles, why aren't they happy? Why aren't you happy?

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Freedom through Forgiveness

 Forgiveness is such a misunderstood term and subject. For many who have been traumatized, hurt, injured emotionally, mentally or physically the idea of forgiveness is difficult to grasp especially in the initial moments of the wounding. The most important idea that I wish to convey here is that forgiveness has absolutely NOTHING to do with the other person or their actions or behaviors. Forgiveness doesn't condone violence, bad behavior or abuse. Nor does it absolve the perpetrator from responsibility for his or her actions. Forgiveness is about releasing the story, the pain, the drama and the trauma from your world. Forgiveness is all about you!

When we are wounded, the wounding can take place on a multitude of levels. Sometimes the wound is obvious - a black eye, a bloody nose, a fat lip, a broken leg, often times though the wounds are not so visible, emotional blackmail, a broken heart, a constant stream of negative actions or belittling words, that permeate the emotional and mental bodies. In all cases the wounds show up in the energetic field.

The luminous energy field stores all wounds from this life and from all of our previous lives. In this field the energy of the experience lives and continues to draw to us additional experiences that "irritate" or "activate" the wound until it has finally been brought to the surface of the soul and released. This is why we often find ourselves living the same dynamics over and over again with different faces and different "sets" of circumstances by the same story. The only way out of this triangle of trauma is through - Through the power of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is about releasing at every level all of the stored energy around the experience of the wounding. So what does that mean? Well when we release or let go of the wound at the spiritual or essential level there is a cascading or domino effect in all aspects of our lives. We begin to think more clearly, we begin to feel freer, we experience health and wholeness in the mind, the body and the spirit.

How do I get this release you might ask? There are many modalities of energy healing that will help you to "get at" these issues at the deepest levels. Some, like body work, work to clear things at the cellular level include massage, cranio sacral therapy, myo facial release, Unlimited Body, Thai Yoga Massage and others that you can investigate to see what works for you. Other methods include hands on energy work like reiki, Shamballa Multidimensional Healing, IET, Quantum Touch, Laying on of Hands, Sound Healing and more. Spiritual psychology, bi-lateral stimulation, bio-feedback, EMDR psycho drama, past life regression, hypnotherapy and other modalities can assist in clearing the mind as well as the neurobiological system.

The most effective method I have found for myself has been a combination of modalities with the deepest and most profound being Shamanic Medicine Work. Shamanic work in the Peruvian tradition includes Illumination which is a clearing of the chakras and filling them with light, Extraction which is the removal of crystallized energies and entities, and Soul Retrieval work where contracts that have been made at the soul level can be re-written and lost soul parts and quantum packets of energy are brought back to the Light Body for integration and a return to the path of destiny. One of the many benefits of Light Body work or Shamanic Medicine work is the ability to dispense entirely with engaging in the "Story" of the wound, whether from a past or a present life or both. The work is so profound because it works at the essential or soul matrix level.

The most beautiful of the gifts that we receive when we engage in this deep inner work of bringing to the surface that which we need to release is the incredible sense of freedom and lightness that comes from the process of forgiveness. We can journey through our remaining days unshackled to old wounds and past hurts, and we can use our prodigious life force energy instead to create beauty, peace, harmony and joy for ourselves, our families, our communities and the world. Find the path to forgiveness today - you'll be glad that you did.

Monday, July 21, 2014

7 signs you're not as self-aware as you think

Self-awareness is a really big deal for everyone, especially executives and business leaders. Failure to face reality can destroy your career and your company.

Being in the advice giving game isn't all it's cracked up to be. It's not like you get to sit on a mountaintop and just rain down pearls of wisdom on your clients. When it comes to executives and business leaders, it's almost never that black and white.
Granted, there are times when people are genuinely open to the voice of experience and perhaps a little objectivity. Then there's the opposite extreme: deep denial. Where they don't want to hear the truth no matter what you say or how you say it.
And in between those black and white peaks is a vast plane of gray, where people sort of know, deep down, what they need to do but something's stopping them from doing it. That something is almost always beneath the surface, meaning it isn't easy to get to and folks will often confound, thwart, or downright resist the effort.
The truth is there are lots of paths people take to avoid confronting whatever it is they don't want to confront. And those paths can lead to career demise or business destruction. No kidding. 
Here are seven signs you may be heading down the latter path.
You're a bully. If you didn't have emotions, you wouldn't be human. Feelings are important guidance mechanisms. Anger and aggression are no different. They're signs that you feel threatened or scared. You go on the offensive and bully to protect something deep within you, something you don't want people to see, often feelings of weakness and vulnerability. Ironic, isn't it?
You're defensive. When chief executives resist a consultant or executive coach who wants to meet with their staff or outside directors one-on-one, when genuine and objective feedback makes them agitated or even angry, that's a sure sign. I'm not even sure why they call it "defensive, since defensive people almost always deflect by going on the offensive.
You're controlling. When you behave in a controlling way--when you micromanage, pick on the little things--it usually means you're not dealing with a big thing that's really bugging you. 
You're passive aggressive. When you say, "Sure, no problem," then turn around and do the exact opposite, it means you don't want to confront others or be confronted by them. 
Your behavior changes. When your behavior changes to the point where it's noticeable to others who know or work with you, that's definitely a sign that you're really bothered by something and not aware of how it's affecting your mood. If someone brings it to your attention and you're defensive, that's an even bigger sign.
You're grandiose. When we make over-the-top overtures to how confident we are in our ideas, our plans, our business, when our strategies defy objective reasoning or our goals don't pass the smell test, that's a sign we're genuinely in over our heads and are overcompensating to appear like we've got everything under control.

You make excuses. Excuses, any kind of excuses, are ways of avoiding or deflecting negative attention. Pointing fingers and blaming others are common avoidance techniques that communicate our resistance to being held accountable. That's why playing the blame game is such a transparent sign of dysfunctional leadership or management. And yet, we see it all-too-often, don't we?

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Your resume is your profile

A Résumé or resume shows a persons' educational background, experiences and skills. The word résumé is a French word which means a summary. The main purpose of a resume is to get new job opportunities. The resume shows a summary of work experience and qualification of the applicant. A resume is the first document that is viewed by an employer against a vacant job. The resume is most of the time accompanied by a cover letter and an application for an employment. The employer reviews these documents and shortlists a number of qualified resumes and call the job applicant for an interview. In some regions a CV (curriculum vitae) is used rather than a resume. A resume is often a shorter document as compared to a CV.
Most of the times a résumé consists of one or two pages of A-4 or letter-sized paper. It shows the most relevant work experience, qualifications and skills for the desired job. A resume is usually composed of keywords and short sentences in a flattering manner. The resume is like a marketing tool for a job applicant against a desired job. It's usually formed for a specific job or industry. Job seekers are now in a position to deliver their résumé directly to the employers through emails and online job portals.
The résumé or CV can be as simple as possible and as complex and as lengthy as required, all it depends on the profession and work experience of the job applicant. The medical professionals, artists, professors and people from other specialized fields may form an extensive résumé. But as the employer don't a have a time to review every section of a résumé or don't find it attractive to review lengthy CVs, the job applicant should try to make their CVs in a brief form.
Styles and formats
As there is no set format for a résumé, the job applicant may follow any format that is circulating in the market.
Reverse chorological
The author of the résumé use their work experience in a reverse manner i.e. start with the most recent or current job and end with the first job experience. Job positions are accompanied with starting and ending job dates.
The qualification section also follow the same pattern with the most recent qualification at the beginning and the initial degree or certification in the last section of qualifications.

This pattern is however not for professional résumé writer.
Functional résumé writer
The résumé shows specific skills and work experience for a specific job position. This format of resume shows the employer what job specific professional skills and capabilities the job applicant possess. This format of resume is good for those planning to switch the career field. This format is easy to review and helps the employer to know which job applicant is most suitable for the required job position.
Online résumé
Internet has brought a new change for job seekers and job recruiters. Job seekers search for new jobs and apply against them and the employers choose the job applications of only those, which they find attractive. Paper form of the résumé or CV is not required when the job applicant has sent an online résumé.
Some job recruiters accepts résumé of specific format like MS Word while some may accept résumé in pdf, html or other formats.
There are many online job portals that offers job applicants to choose a format for résumé and then build their resume using online résumé builder. This service of online résumé builder has provided convenience for job seekers. There are different styles and formats of résumés available for job seekers from different career fields.
There are also others styles and formats of résumés available for online job seekers like video, infographic and vine resumes.
Résumé evaluation

There are agencies that offer job applicants to build a CV in an attractive manner. They also suggest changes necessary to build a résumé on employers' requirements. These agencies may charge a small amount of fees.

Work and stress

Work and stress

Mostly job leads to the stress that we go through in your life. Meeting deadlines, managing your juniors, keeping your boss happy is surely a lot of things. All these leads to late night works and takeout food that leads to tight muscles, no sleep and surely more stress. You abuse your boss in your mind for making you work so hard but they have also come across this stage. They can understand your stress but they also want to see how you handle it. You will have to maintain your calmness and show how you can handle it all.
Here are some ways by which you can seem calm in stressed situations

• Keep a positive attitude- Instead of thinking how much i have to do and how am i going to complete it, think how much is left and how to do it. If you have a positive attitude it will show in your face and you will much calmer. Moreover try to be patient and control your temper. Even if you are stressed and something is bothering you, keep a smile on your face and keep smiling. These things will affect your mind more making your look stressful.
Keep your desk clean- A work desk with lots of papers and files in it will show how much work you have left. A clean desk will on the other hand show how organized you are and how you can handle pressure to your superiors. Whatever work papers you have to keep, store them in the drawer. All the pens should be all capped and kept in an organized way.
Take breaks- Even if you have a lot of work left and your deadline is very near, try to take a break. This will not only keep you in sane condition but also give your bosses a feeling you have everything in your control. Moreover the short breaks will freshen up your mind and believe me a fresh mind is lot more productive than a jammed one.

• Do not work late- Working late in the office after your bosses has gone to their homes shows your stress clearly. If you need to work extra you can do it in your home. Do not think that your 'work hard' attitude will be praised. Most of the times it will make your superiors wonder what you were doing all day.

All these methods will certainly not draw attention of your bosses at once as they have a lot of work other than observing you, but be assured you will get noticed gradually.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014


While some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional.
There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And there are going to be other people who have relationships that are unhealthy, but are not aware of it.
In this case, this is the only thing they know and it is therefore normal. Whereas, if one is aware of how dysfunctional their relationships are, it might be what is normal, but at the same time, they are aware of the fact that there is another way of relating with others.
All the time one is unaware of what is taking place and that there are other options, they are going to end up suffering unnecessarily. They are in a position where their relationships are not allowing them to feel: uplifted, inspired and fulfilled.
What they are doing is causing them to feel worthless, violated and powerless, amongst other things. To feel this way is unlikely to make one feel as though life is something to be enjoyed, it will be nothing more than something they have to endure.
However, when one is aware of what is taking place and that there are other options in life, they are still going to suffer. But while someone who is not aware is going to suffer and believe there is no way out, this person is going to see that there is a way out.
So even though they are suffering, they will know that it doesn’t have to last forever; it can be put to an end. This is going to give them hope and while hope is not everything, it is clearly better than having no hope whatsoever.
If these two examples are put to one side for the time being and one was to look at their situations, one is going to see that while one person might be more aware than the other, they are both in the same position.
Mentally they are going to be in difference places, but when it comes to their body, they are in the same place. This shows that they are different up top, but down below, they are the same.
What this means is that while one persons intellect and what is taking place in their head is going to be different, their body on the other hand, is the same. Here, what feels comfortable for one person is what feels comfortable for the other.
So when one is aware, they are going to see that even though their body feels comfortable with the abuse, it still doesn’t mean that it is therefore healthy. And when one hasn’t got this intellectual understanding, they are not going to have this contrast to enable them to experience hope and to have the chance to move forward.
So one person is going to be the fish in water and the other person is going to be the fish that has been taken out of the water and then put back in. The first fish has no idea that life could be different and although the other fish is still in the water, they know there is another way.
There is going to be a reason that these people have a different outlook and why they have a body that feels comfortable with abuse. When it comes to why they have a different outlook, it could be due to the kind of people they have come across in life and the books they have read.
The person who doesn’t realise that abusive relationships are not the only option in life and that there is another way, has probably not met or been exposed to anyone who has showed them that there is another way. Or if they have, it would have been rejected and dismissed. And as for books, perhaps they have not read anything to do with abusive relationships.
The Body
Having an intellectual understanding is one thing, but in order for one to no longer feel comfortable with abusive relationships, they need to have a body that feels uncomfortable with abusive relationships.
And the reason one’s body does feel comfortable could be due to their experiences as an adult, but it is more likely to be due to what happened during their childhood years. It is during these early years that one forms associations around what is familiar and therefore what is safe.
It doesn’t matter if something is functional and healthy; all that matters is that one has been exposed to it. Through being exposed to it, one will gradually begin to feel comfortable with it. So if these early experiences are generally healthy, it could mean that one will feel comfortable with healthy relationships.
And if they are not, it could set one up to feel comfortable with abusive relationships; unless they do something latter in life to correct what took place of course. These early experiences would have caused one to have certain emotional experiences.
Time will have passed and yet, it doesn’t mean that one feels any different. If one was abused, it is highly unlikely that anyone would have been around to validate how they felt and so they may have had to repress their feelings.
And all the time these feelings remain trapped in one’s body, one will continue to feel comfortable being in abusive relationships. So as these trapped emotions are released, one will gradually feel different and no longer to be attracted to or attract abusive relationships into their life.
These trapped emotions can be released with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. The most important thing is that one reaches out for support and doesn’t suffer in silence.