IMPROVE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

Body Language : Body Language Signs You can tell how someone is feeling by their body language signs. It’s useful to be able to read people’s body language because what people say and what they feel are often not the same. Studies have shown that of the information that we receive from other people: 10% is from what they actually say; 40% is from the tone and speed of their voice; 50% is from their body language. Head (Body Language Signs) • A tilted head symbolises interest in someone or something. • A lowered head is a negative signal that communicates acceptance of defeat. • Running fingers through hair can mean that someone is frustrated or that they're preening themselves because they feel attractive. • Fondling or patting down hair demonstrates insecurity and a lack of self-confidence. • The occasional nod from a listener to a speaker is a positive message; it’s an indication that they are listening and are interested. • Too much nodding implies that a listener has lost interest, is not really listening and is simply nodding to be polite. • Touching or tugging an ear indicates indecision; though it’s also sometimes done when a person is being untruthful. • Someone may touch or slightly rub their nose if they are doubtful about what is being said or if they are rejecting an idea. • People often pinch the bridge of their nose and close their eyes when making a negative evaluation. • People place their hand on their cheek when they’re thinking or evaluating. • A genuine smile engages the whole face (including the eyes) and is usually larger on the right side. • A false smile will often only engage the lips, and will be fairly symmetrical or larger on the left side. • A person stroking their chin is evaluating or making a decision. • Projecting the chin towards another person demonstrates defiance or aggression. • Clearing the throat or swallowing air is a sign of anxiety. Eyes (Body Language Signs) • Failing to look someone in the eyes displays a lack of confidence. • Lowering the eyes is a sign of submission, fear or guilt. • Staring is interpreted as aggression and implies a person feels dominant and powerful. • Looking directly into another person’s eyes without staring signifies self-assurance. • Sizing up a person by looking at them from head to toe is associated with assessing them as either as a potential threat or as a sexual partner. • Continual glancing at something or someone suggests a desire for that thing or person. • Blink rate increases when someone is nervous or assessing something. • Looking upwards and to the right indicates that someone is recalling a memory. • Looking upwards and to the left implies that a person is using the imaginative / creative part of their brain. • When a person looks directly upwards they are thinking. • A widening or brightening of a person’s eyes shows an increased interest in a situation / conversation. • People who feel insulted, caught-out or threatened, will likely break eye contact. • A quick glance sideways during a conversation can be used to show irritation at the last comment made. • Eyes moving from side to side whilst talking suggest that what is being said is not meant to be heard by other people. • A person who consistently looks around them is bored with a situation / conversation. Upper Body (Body Language Signs) • Pushing the chest forward draws attention to it; for women this is seen as a provocative romantic display whereas for men it’s a show of strength and power. • A person may push their shoulders back to demonstrate their power and signify that they don’t fear attack. • A pulled back chest with forward curled shoulders is a defensive position taken by people who want others to know that they are no threat to them. • A person with folded / crossed arms is placing a barrier between themselves and their surroundings; indicating that they’re not happy with what is being said or done. • Open arms, particularly when combined with showing palms, mean that someone is approachable and willing to communicate with others. • Upward facing palms signify that a person’s defences are down and that they’re speaking sincerely with an open heart. • Outward, upward hand movements express an open and positive message. • Open palms occasionally touching the chest imply honesty. • Using hands with downward facing palms symbolises a calming action. • A palm facing outwards towards someone signals to that person to stop what they are doing or not come any closer. • Positioning hands behind the back shows that someone is relaxed and comfortable; though it can also be used on purpose to convey a message of power and confidence. • Finger pointing is interpreted as either a sign of assertiveness or a sign of aggression. • Tapping or drumming fingers communicates impatience or frustration. • Biting fingernails represents insecurity and nervousness. • Fiddling with items (e.g. keys or a pen) can be a sign of nerves or anxiety; alternatively it may be done as a result of boredom or impatience. • Interlinked fingers, finger tips touching or index fingers pressed together, are positive gestures that show a person is thinking, evaluating or deciding. • Sides of the palms close together with extended fingers (forming the shape of a plate) is an action often used when offering thoughts or ideas to people. • Fingers held together and curled upwards (forming the shape of a cup) is a gesture used when someone is pleading for something. • Touching the front of the neck symbolises concern about what another person is saying. Lower Body (Body Language Signs) • Walking briskly with an upright posture shows confidence. • A normal, relaxed standing pose is with the feet positioned at shoulder width. • The wider a person’s feet are positioned from each other, the more dominant and powerful they feel. • Standing with hands on hips expresses either readiness or aggression. • Leaning back with the hips pushed forward is a provocative and suggestive gesture; it can also signify that a person feels powerful. • In a relaxed sitting pose, the thighs are typically slightly open, with legs running in parallel from the hips. • Sitting with legs open / apart means that a person is comfortable and is feeling secure in their surroundings. • Sitting legs may point (with knees or feet) at the most interesting person in a room or in a person’s desired direction of travel (i.e. towards a door). • Crossed legs can be either a negative, defensive position or a relaxed, comfortable one; it depends on how tense a persons leg muscles are. • Legs crossed towards someone suggest a greater level of interest in them than legs crossed away from them. • A slightly kicking / bouncing foot when sitting with crossed legs suggests boredom or impatience. • Crossing ankles is a sign of being fairly relaxed, especially when the legs are stretched forward and the person is leaning back. • The ‘figure-of-four cross’ occurs when one ankle is placed on top of the other legs' knee, with the top leg's knee pointing sideways; this signals confidence and power. 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WILL SHE COME [ A NOVEL ]

The introduction This novel has many characters which have focused of BPO world. Rahul the hero of this play has many friends like sanjana, shruti and amit. They all need job in BPO sector. They are not willing to do the job in government sector where corruption or politics is imposed. All get job in Mumbai or Poona but rahul is failed in all interviews. He tries to commit suicide, First time at Mumbai railway track then where two lady police rescued him. He reaches to his sister ankita’s home where he got friend ship with nikhita, neelam and sweta. He gets job with the help of nikhita in her company. Sweta and nellem are lesbian who raps rahul. His sister tells him to leave home. He leaves home and he is fired from job also because he has seen his boss doing kiss with his counselor. He tries getting suicide on Delhi railway track. Police rescue him and he meets at here with hemant sir who is teacher of him. He takes him to make him join a company. He gets job and posted in udaipur where he is fuck d by a married lady student anther home. He is transferred to Kota where here sister studies. He joins his office d and fail in love with his student lata. Lata is dearest and intelligent student of rahul. They love each other their romance go for there year. Her sister and friend of NCC made her apart from rahul. Rahul is safe but left by lata. Lata has drooped rahul. Rahul loves her. She is enjoying with her friend anil and shrijit and all others. Rahul takes poison because threatening call of anil. Sanjana comes back to kota joins as a RJ where newly radio FM starts. She loves rahul. Rahul takes sleeping pills but rescued dby his sister ans nihita who has just reached to kota. Rahul is taken to hospital and rescued. Rahul waits for lata for one year. After one will she came back CONTENTS 1. Introduction 1 2. The first meeting with lataa4 3. Mission bpo job 4. Bangalore 5. Poona and Mumbai 6. The suicide attempt[i] 7. My sister’s home 8. First job in BPO 9. The saddest day of my life 10. Misunderstanding 11. The suicide attempt [ii] 12. My training 13. The first teaching job 14. The dirtiest day of life [ii] 15. My promotion but in KOTA 16. Allen carrier institute KOTA 17. The first batch sand lataa 18. Her SMS 19. Annual function 20. lata proposed me 21. Picnic 22. Annual meeting 23. My another transfer 24. Our love and romance 25. The dirtiest of my life [iii] 26. NCC camp 27. SANJANA came back 28. The miss call 29. 19message 30. SANJANA and I 31. Two words 32. A letter to lata 33. Inspiration 34. Characters • Rahul : hero of the play and main character. • Sanjana : friend of rahul • Lata : girlfriend and student of rahul • Muskan : lata’s friend and rahul’s another student and friend. • Shruti : friend’s of sanjana and rahul • Amit : friend of rahula dn shrtuti • Ankita : rahul’s pretty sisiter • Neelam a • nd sweta : dirtiest girl neighbour of ankita and lesbian girls. • Nkhita : friend of ankita • Hemant : teacher of rahul • Sushmita : lattaas sister Acknowledgment I don’t know how to write well, being a language trainer. My all students gave me motivation to write. I am very thankful to them who have studied by me. Their love and affection gave me this success and they send me on this peak. Thanks to sundarlata who didn’t understand my true love and became treacherous girl. Her ignorance gave jealousy. Still I Love her so much. I hope she would be changed after reading this novel or my all readers will bring her back for my happiest life. 1. first of all thanks to RAJINDER PAL SINGH[ RPS] ANAND , my company’s marketing director, who gave me encouragements and his family who didn’t let me feel lack of my love. He shared his experience as well as he made me confident for publishing it in just in 3 months. 2. my chum friends sanjana and shruti who came to kota and stopped me doing something wrong to call her back 3. muskan who kept send me motivational message to get lata back. 4. My lovely and dearest student kirti, bharti, suraj, anuj, rajesh, bhupendra, and some others who kept in my touch and their sms made me a good teacher and writer. 5. My nearest faculties and newly assistant mr. Praveen [prem] who gave me spare time to write it. I was busy but he took my batches and started teaching I became free to write it. 6. All kotaites who gave a small place to stay in kota city for few days. 7. My closest well wishers and BPO friends who kept sending me scrapes on orkut.com or twitter. 8. My younger brother dinesh chaudhary who always disturbed me to write it. He deleted many file playing with my PC. 9. My institution or company members who encouraged me to be top. 10. All school, college principals and their students who invited or gave me a chance to share my knowledge or experience on all topics like PD, debates management skill development. It motivated me or helped me to forget lata. 11. my all students across India, in bhilwara shelly and hemraj, in udaipur shahrukh and priti, in meerute and jaipur as well thousand of students in kota who comes to study at my institution. Dear readers this book is not about any illegal activity or violence. I have focused on teen or youth suicide and modernization that have killed the real life of human. English has become popular language in India, people must learn it. All places which are mentioned may be real but not all characters are true. I talked about sex, suicide and jobless youth which are biggest and major problem in India. Today’s girls have lost their values. People should think before committing suicide Story of this novel is not real. It is untrue but somewhat match with a teacher who was my best friend now he has been teaching in college but she had left him Santosh kumar chaudhary Is an international online English language tutor. He is connected with many top tutoring websites. He is a P.D. trainer and a famous motivator in kota city. Thousands of students have learned English well from him. He has taught in many cities like jaipur ajmer udaipur, bhilwara, meerut and kota. He is an idol of many students who follows him and praises his styles and fun loving nature. He has just completed his twenty third birthday

The Top 10 Leadership Qualities Leadership can be defined as one's ability to get others to willingly follow. Every organization needs leaders at every level. A leader with vision has a clear, vivid picture of where to go, as well as a firm grasp on what success looks like and how to achieve it. But it’s not enough to have a vision; leaders must also share it and act upon it. Jack Welch, former chairman and CEO of General Electric Co., said, "Good business leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own the vision and relentlessly drive it to completion." A leader must be able to communicate his or her vision in terms that cause followers to buy into it. He or she must communicate clearly and passionately, as passion is contagious. A good leader must have the discipline to work toward his or her vision single-mindedly, as well as to direct his or her actions and those of the team toward the goal. Action is the mark of a leader. A leader does not suffer “analysis paralysis” but is always doing something in pursuit of the vision, inspiring others to do the same. Integrity is the integration of outward actions and inner values. A person of integrity is the same on the outside and on the inside. Such an individual can be trusted because he or she never veers from inner values, even when it might be expeditious to do so. A leader must have the trust of followers and therefore must display integrity. Honest dealings, predictable reactions, well-controlled emotions, and an absence of tantrums and harsh outbursts are all signs of integrity. A leader who is centered in integrity will be more approachable by followers. Dedication means spending whatever time or energy is necessary to accomplish the task at hand. A leader inspires dedication by example, doing whatever it takes to complete the next step toward the vision. By setting an excellent example, leaders can show followers that there are no nine-to-five jobs on the team, only opportunities to achieve something great. Magnanimity means giving credit where it is due. A magnanimous leader ensures that credit for successes is spread as widely as possible throughout the company. Conversely, a good leader takes personal responsibility for failures. This sort of reverse magnanimity helps other people feel good about themselves and draws the team closer together. To spread the fame and take the blame is a hallmark of effective leadership. Leaders with humility recognize that they are no better or worse than other members of the team. A humble leader is not self-effacing but rather tries to elevate everyone. Leaders with humility also understand that their status does not make them a god. Mahatma Gandhi is a role model for Indian leaders, and he pursued a “follower-centric” leadership role. Openness means being able to listen to new ideas, even if they do not conform to the usual way of thinking. Good leaders are able to suspend judgment while listening to others’ ideas, as well as accept new ways of doing things that someone else thought of. Openness builds mutual respect and trust between leaders and followers, and it also keeps the team well supplied with new ideas that can further its vision. Creativity is the ability to think differently, to get outside of the box that constrains solutions. Creativity gives leaders the ability to see things that others have not seen and thus lead followers in new directions. The most important question that a leader can ask is, “What if …?” Possibly the worst thing a leader can say is, “I know this is a dumb question ... ” Fairness means dealing with others consistently and justly. A leader must check all the facts and hear everyone out before passing judgment. He or she must avoid leaping to conclusions based on incomplete evidence. When people feel they that are being treated fairly, they reward a leader with loyalty and dedication. Assertiveness is not the same as aggressiveness. Rather, it is the ability to clearly state what one expects so that there will be no misunderstandings. A leader must be assertive to get the desired results. Along with assertiveness comes the responsibility to clearly understand what followers expect from their leader. Many leaders have difficulty striking the right amount of assertiveness, according to a study in the February 2007 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by the APA (American Psychological Association). It seems that being underassertive or overassertive may be the most common weakness among aspiring leaders. A sense of humor is vital to relieve tension and boredom, as well as to defuse hostility. Effective leaders know how to use humor to energize followers. Humor is a form of power that provides some control over the work environment. And simply put, humor fosters good camaraderie. Intrinsic traits such as intelligence, good looks, height and so on are not necessary to become a leader. Anyone can cultivate the proper leadership traits.

ENGLISH SPOKEN TIPS

How to speak English Language is the part of human nature. This is the way of communication. Thousands of languages are spoken in the world. English is a global language and this is international language as well. Now it has been our compulsion to learn it whether we want to learn or not but we will have to learn today or tomorrow. In India the process of learning English language is slower then china. Now days BPO companies are searching graduates. If you are fluent in English and can understand well then you can go there. They have an urgent requirement they won’t prefer your degrees if you have good communication and leadership skill and good personality then definitely they will select you. Fluency in English is very necessary to communicate them .learning English is very easy if you follow some tips 1. The first step to learning English is having a good dictionary. If you have good dictionary you can learn English well. Always purchase English-English dictionary not Hindi to English or English to Hindi 2. Watch English programmers Watching English movie and programs are good way to improve English. It can give you correct pronunciation, styles and latest vocabulary. 3. Read English newspaper and magazines Read times of India, the Hindu, the Indian express, the economics times the telegraph etc. There are a lot of English magazines available on a lot of different topics. Read them once in week 4. Read English forums and blogger Goggle Forums are a great source of information. Also in forums real people talk about real problems. Chat with them in English and get solution daily. You can find me on orkut and face book get tips daily by me its free. 5. Most effective tip: "Think in English" This is very important never translate any sentence because words have no meaning they have sense go on sense don’t go on words. Don’ts 1 Don't study grammar For learning English language grammar is not necessary we learn English language like we have learnt Hindi our mother tongue we in touch with English speaking people get atmosphere 2 Learn and study phrases 3 Reading and Listening is NOT enough. Practice speaking what you hear! 4 Submerge yourself Being able to speak a language is not related to how smart you are. Anyone can learn how to speak any language. This is a proven fact by everyone in the world. Everyone can speak at least one or two language. 5 STUDY CORRECT MATERIAL SANTOSH CHAUDHARY {Director of American institute, PD trainer and international online English tutor, writer and columnist} Rahuljat1986@gmail.com

narrow mind vs narrow mind thinking

whatever we think or learn it goes by our mind. our mind may be short or broad cant say because it is the fact of our atmosphere. our mind can be grown with the help of good atmosphere good books, have connection with good people otherwise there is no good source to make it impressive.

when i was seven year old my mom used to feed me almond to increase memory. but whenever i remind it then i start laughing . can human be developed by these nonessential things.

life is full of enjoyment if we wanna enjoy it in the different ways. '' GYANBAN KO KABHI KOI HAANI NAHI PAHUCHA SAKTA H. USKO POWER SE PEETA JA SAKTA H LEKIN USKI AVAJ KO NAHI DAVAYA JA SAKTA H. if you have good mind then you can defeat him. body power is nothing in front of mind power. one who have good mind they are famous in their work. increase your mind. devlop yor memory on day you will enjoy it. people will respect you so much that would be you achievement, not others.